My boyfriend was always the "faithful supporter" as well, but just would not work out with me at all (when I was doing the triathlons). When I signed up to do the marathon, I told him this was a serious goal, but that I knew that from the vantage point I was then at, it would be impossible for me to get there. I asked him for his support, in running my 2 30 min T & Th runs (from work -- we work at the same company), and also with the LSD run on the weekends. (I would do the rest myself.) I really did start out slow -- much slower than he was -- so I think that at the beginning, he felt that he really was helping me, talking to me, etc. This might not work if you are already doing better than your S.O.! :-) But as I got better, he continued with me -- he had "sworn" that he would stop after we did the 1/2 mary back whenever that was (January?) -- he said that it would be "insane" for him to run more than 13 miles (he is Austrian -- he said he would lose his citizenship if he did that *smile*). Anyway, well, afterwards, we have just continued on. The thing that I've particularly found is that it gives us some time together -- something that we didn't really have that much, we didn't have a shared "interest" so to say (meaning, something we could both b*tch about! *smile*).
So, that is how I did it -- it's honestly amazing, I still can't believe it. The weekend before last, we ran 20 miles -- and he mapped out the course on the computer, etc. and really got into that, being sure we had water stops, etc. Last weekend we ran over the GG Bridge and back -- and he is doing way better than I am now! *smile* This weekend, 24 miles around the county -- he's complaining, but he knows that I really had this as a goal, and I made him feel "a part" of my reaching it.
Anyway -- that is what worked for me....?
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